10 Keys to Large Amounts of Happiness!

1. Look for happiness! Perception is a choice! Who is right, the cynic or the optimist? Do you think the cynic is right? Or will you vote for the optimist? The point is, the cynic and the optimist are both right! Perception is a choice. Be careful what you look for because you will find it! Perception is projection: you see what you want to see. If you are looking for one more reason why you抮e in the wrong job, you抣l find it. If you抮e looking for one more reason why the world is out to get you, you抣l find it. Similarly, if you look for happiness, happiness finds you. Choose consciously what you are looking for today. You will see a difference if you are willing to see things differently. Outlook determines outcome. 2. Celebrate the "GOOD NEWS" Judging by our day-to-day conversations with friends, family and colleagues, no one is happy, no one is successful and no one is having a good time. "How are you?" we ask, when we greet one another. The replies arrive thick and fast: "Not bad", "Not so bad", and "Not too bad". Some people, more creative, say, "Could be better" "Could be worse" "Bearing up" "Oh, so-so" "Fair to middling" "Hanging in there" "Soldering on" "Surviving" "Can抰 complain" "Mustn抰 grumble" How about that! I call this type of inane conversation "Not-so-badder-itis". It is like a "near-life experience", as opposed to a "near-death experience", in that there is no happiness, no sadness, no commitment, no nothing. In our fast and furious world, where no one appears to have the time to engage in mindful conversations, "Not so bad" has become a learned response, a type of social shorthand. It抯 quick, its easy, and we have no idea what you are talking about! Celebrate the "good news". Sit down, right now, and make a list of ten "successes" you have had in the last week. Yes, ten! They are there if you look for them. For the next seven days, I want you to sit down each evening and make a list of 5 successes you have had for each day. Affirm and acknowledge your successes, your joy, your good fortune. 3. Remember what抯 IMPORTANT! Do you remember the Monty Python Sketch about the "Silly Olympics", called the "100 Meters Dash for People With a Poor Sense of Direction"? Well, the gun goes off, and pretty soon the athletes are running backwards, sideways and nowhere. They are running very fast, but they have no direction. This morning, your alarm clock went off, and you too started to run - it抯 another busy day, auto-pilot kicks in (thank God!), and you dash from bed to bathroom, have breakfast on the run, tackle the traffic, negotiate the road-rage, and frantically you consult the personal organiser for "What first?", "What next?" and "What now?" Do you know where you are running to? Are you on track? Is there any finishing line in sight? Decide who and what is important to you and give, wholeheartedly of your time, your energy and your attention. People get ill and unhappy because, 1) they forget what is important; 2) they know what is important but their time, energy and attention is spent elsewhere. Do not let details eclipse what is important. Exercise: write down 10 things you love to do, and then write down next to each of these activities the date you last did it; write down 10 people that you love to spend "quality time" with, and again write down the date you last spent "quality time" with each person. Are you still on track? Have you got enough time to do this exercise? 4. What did you decide today? Take your mind back to first thing this morning. Would you describe the way you woke up today as a beautiful performance, or, more simply, a performance! Was it peaceful, or were you in pieces? Did you rise and shine, or, rise and whine? Did you wake up fresh, or, on auto? Do you ever find that the effort of waking actually exhausts you for the rest of the day? How did you greet this new day? Are you, for instance, the sort of person who wakes up in the morning and says, "Good morning, God", or, swears, "Good God, morning!"? Maybe you like to start the day with a smile, to get it over with! How do you prepare for each new day? Try to recall specific decisions you made during the very first hour of today. Your first decision may have been to hit the "Snooze" button on your alarm clock! What then? A fast coffee, maybe? Hit the shower. A cigarette. A search for socks. New underwear. Yesterday抯 underwear. Hurry the children along. Make-up. Breakfast on the run. Catch the news headlines Hunt for your wallet. The "find the keys" game. Walk the dog. A quick jog? Most early morning decisions are about showers, make-up, clothes, children, food, time and transport perhaps. They are "doing decisions", as opposed to "being decisions". What I am most interested in is not your "to do" list, but your "to be" list. In other words, did you make any conscious decisions about how you wanted to be today? To put it another way, what sort of a day did you decide to have today? Percentage wise, how much time did you spend preparing your body for today, i.e. washing, feeding and clothing, as opposed to how much time spent preparing your mind for today? What was the split? Body 95%; Mind 5%, perhaps? Body 25%; Mind 75%, perhaps? Generally speaking, how do you like to prepare yourself mentally and spiritually for each new day of your life? Your first hour on waking is like the rudder of a ship in that it serves to steer a course for the rest of your day. More specifically, it is during this time that you make up your mind exactly what sort of a day you will have. In other words, you set your intention for the day, unconsciously and consciously. So, once again, think back to first thing this morning and ask yourself, how did you decide to be today? What sort of a day have you already decided to have? Decision is power! Decision, above circumstance, is the key to happiness NOW. Know, therefore, that your decision counts. You really can decide what sort of a day to have today. In fact, you already have. Nothing, absolutely nothing, can happen without your decision. 5. To be or not to be? Did anyone tell you when you were growing up, you can be what you want? Hopefully, if you were fortunate, there was at least one person in your life who encouraged you to dream, to dare and to be? The words, you can be what you want, sound so positive, hopeful and affirming. They are also a statement of truth, for they illustrate a very important principle of being. This principle is outlined in a poem of affirmation I wrote called "You Can Be What You Want!". It reads, If you would want love, be loving. If you would want care, be caring. You can be what you want. If you would want joy, be joyful. If you would want peace, be peaceful. You can be what you want. If you would want happiness, be happy. If you would want kindness, be kindly. You can be what you want. If you would want forgiveness, be forgiving. If you would want acceptance, be accepting. You can be what you want. Being is proactive. It is literally being what you want. It is also about being first, e.g. if you want honesty, be honest first; if you want loyalty, be loyal first; if you want trust, be trusting first; if you want enthusiasm, be enthusiastic first; if you want courage, be courageous first; if you want inspiration, be a Light first! Be what you want, and stick to it! Your courage will be rewarded. 6. Work, Rest and Play! According to the world ethic, happiness is not natural - happiness is a pay-packet you earn for putting in the hours. There are, in particular, four erroneous, fearful beliefs about happiness that help make up the work ethic, and they are, Happiness has to be deserved Happiness has to be worked for Happiness has to be earned Happiness has to be paid for The work ethic is all about labour: birth is labour, life is labour, love is labour, happiness is labour, work is labour, death is rest. We labour, not for the joy of it, but because we have learned to believe we must. The purpose of the work ethic is to work hard so as to atone for your guilt and unworthiness and thereby "deserve happiness" once more. "Workaholism" is endemic, and for many of us our life is governed entirely by work. Once upon a time, we worked to live; now, we live to work. Any "life" we do have is merely recovery from work. We work, recover from work, and then work again. We go to the office to work. After work, we bring home some work with us. For rest, we go tot he gym for a work-out. Totally exhausted, we go to therapy to work through our problems - "I抳e done a lot of work on myself," we say. After all that, there抯 the house-work! Finally, we hit the sack, too tired to be happy, but our mind is still working and we cannot sleep. No problem! Insomnia is a wonderful chance to get more work done! The work ethic is motivated by the belief that anything worthwhile requires great work, effort and labour. According to the work ethic: creativity is not inspiration; it抯 perspiration; love is a labour, not a joy; success is a fight, it never comes easily; health is about a "no pain, no gain" attitude; salvation is hardest of all - it is a wrestling match with the angels - just ask Jacob. Nothing comes easily according to the work ethic. We are too busy working to be happy, to be happy. In the last ten years, the average working week has increased by over ten hours to nearly 50 hours a week; the lunch break faces extinction; 6 out of 10 men and 4 out of 10 women work Saturdays; Sundays are now a workday for many. To cap it all, when we dare leave the office at 5pm, there is always one sad, brainless colleague who shouts out, "Part timer", or, "Only doing a half day?" Guilt ensues. As a society we spend more and more time as a human doing and less and less time as a human being. Indeed, the work ethic despises rest and play. We hardly ever go out to play anymore; instead we go for cardiovascular workouts, business lunches and corporate away days. According to the work ethic, rest is "downtime" - nothing useful is happening. Too much rest and you lose your edge! Kick the work ethic into touch! When you are relaxed and happy, you perform brilliantly. Remember the old saying: "you do not stop playing because you grow old, you grow old because you stop playing". Work is an attitude. So too is play. Go out to play! 7. Laugh your head off! How wonderful it is to laugh! Instinctively, we know that there is something magical, nourishing and uplifting about laughter, particularly the warm, whole-hearted laughter that arises spontaneously between friends, loved ones and even occasionally a stranger. The entertainer, Victor Borge, once commented, "laughter is the shortest distance between two people". In September 1991, I opened the doors to Britain抯 first NHS Laughter Clinic off a road in Handsworth, Birmingham where as "Life" would have it (I don抰 believe in luck), there had been large-scale rioting the night before. To my astonishment and wonder we had a near full house for our first event - looking back, there was something poetic about our meeting, something so hopeful, loving and life-affirming. We were united in laughter. Physicians, philosophers and priests of all cultures have forever acknowledged the healing properties of laughter, a happy frame of mind and a joyful heart. In the Bible, for instance, it is written, "A merry heart doeth good like a medicine; but a broken spirit drieth the bones" (Proverbs 17:22). I like the words, in particular of Jonathan Swift who wrote, "The best doctors in the world are Doctor Diet, Doctor Quiet and Doctor Merryman". Two thoughts: 1) "The most wasted day is that in which we have not laughed, 2) "Blessed are they who can laugh at themselves, for they will never cease to be amused". The greatest happiness of all is to know that happiness needs no reason. Indeed, "Laughter needs no reason. A smile needs no reason. Love needs no reason. Kindness needs no reason. They are gifts for free - life抯 true treasures." Can you remember a time in your life when you were happy for no reason at all? All of a sudden you were surprised by joy. It bubbled up as if from nowhere. Your smile was almost too big for your face, your heart wanted to leap out of your chest, and your whole body rung like a bell. "I抦 happy!" you cried. "I wonder why?" you thought. "I must know why?" you demanded. And just then, the joy appeared to die. Children are often happy without reason - it is a part of their charm. Often you can catch a child laughing for the fun of laughing, smiling for the sake of smiling, playing happily with happiness. It both amuses and saddens me to think that, when a child laughs for no reason at all we think it wonderful, but when an adult laughs for no reason at all we immediately fear for his or her health! The point is, who ever said happiness needs a reason? Give up all thoughts that happiness needs a reason. Practise "unreasonable happiness." Laugh for no reason - it will entertain everyone! Smile for no reason - smiling always triggers curiosity. 8. Give What you Want! One of the healing processes I use on my workshops that I most enjoy is called "Complementary Medicine Therapy". This process acknowledges the enormous healing potential of kind, loving and encouraging words of complement. These are three stages to "Complementary Medicine Therapy". You might want to try each stage for yourself. The first stage is to write down five complements you would most like to receive from anybody. These complements may highlight a particular quality, talent, skill or value that is dear to you. Once written, I ask participants to repeat these complements out loud to themselves. Why? Because, often what you want to hear from others is what you are currently not saying to yourself. Other people can complement you a thousand times over, but you will only truly hear (i.e. receive) as many complements from others as you are willing to give yourself. Thus, giving to yourself can help you to receive from others. Keep your list of complements on hand. Read them not just once, but three times a day, for seven days minimum. The second stage of "Complementary Medicine Therapy" is to think of someone in your life who is perhaps overdue a sincere complement from you. The name or face of this person will appear almost instantly. Think carefully now what it is you would most like to complement them for. Why do this? First, because being loving is fulfilling your purpose; second, it抯 great fun; third, whatever you complement in another person you are strengthening in yourself also. Complements are affirmations. Like sacred greetings, they bless both the receiver and the giver. A good way to strengthen any joyful quality in yourself is to first spot it in others. What you spot in others, you give life to in yourself. The Buddhists refer to this practice as, sympathetic joy. The ego, born of lack, cannot afford to be this generous; but you can! Remember, giving is a gain; not a loss. The third stage is to think of a person whom you feel is overdue in giving you a loving complement. Once again, the name or face of this person will appear almost instantly. Think for a moment, what would you most like them to say to you? Next, make contact with this person and give to them the complement you would most like to receive from them? Give what you want? Why? Because, often what you are not getting may be what you are withholding. Other people are you! They are your mirrors! And just as it would be entirely unreasonable to stand before a mirror and demand to see something you are not presenting, so too, it is unreasonable to expect from someone something you are not willing to give. Many people have experienced great breakthroughs in their relationships (with both the living and dead) during this third stage. 9. Gratitude For the next seven days, sit down each evening and write down ten things you are grateful for for each day. Better still, do this with your partner or a friend. Before we practise gratitude, we are in the dark and there appears to be very little to be grateful for. Once we begin, a new light dawns, sometimes a brilliant light, a light as bright as heaven itself. To whom are you grateful to in your life? Do these people know the full extent of your gratitude? Do you realise how grateful they will be when you tell them? Gratitude is more than an attitude; gratitude is a philosophy. The philosophy of gratitude begins as a hope, grows into a belief, and, finally, becomes an absolute knowing. It is a knowing that within any given situation - peaceful or painful, beautiful or ugly - there is always a gift waiting, wanting for you to see. If it appears you have nothing to be grateful for, it is because you are not allowing yourself to receive. Just because you do not receive does not mean there is nothing to receive. On the contrary, there is always something to receive, and so there is always a reason to be grateful. Pray, "Dear God, teach me I am worthy to receive, teach me how to receive, teach me gratitude". Gratitude is good medicine. One single serving of gratitude is often enough to open the heart, energise the body, warm the bones, make your hair curl, put a spring in your step, start you humming, and make you smile like a baby! 10. Make Happiness A Way of Travelling! After years of studying stress, I have concluded that one of the biggest causes of stress is that we wait for happiness to happen! We think happiness is not for now; rather, we see it as a reward we work to, struggle after and suffer for in the hopes that one day it will happen. Following this erroneous train of thought, today becomes a day for well-behaved hardship, noble suffering, mild martyrdom and quiet desperation; and tomorrow, maybe, we might be happy. Well, it抯 official. The news is out: "There is no future!" Please understand, this is not a message of despair; it is simply a statement of truth. I repeat, "There is no future"! Save not, therefore, your best for the future. Do not WAIT to give your best to the next job, the next time, the next person, or, the next opportunity. Give your best NOW! Some things never change: your greatest opportunity for happiness has been, will be, and still is, NOW! Unfortunately, you are often too busy "pasturising" and "futurising" to see that everything is here already right now. Give up the past, give up the future, and give in to happiness NOW! It really is all here. It must be, because you are here. The one piece of good news that is true forever is, The present is here, now! When in search of wisdom, linguists often refer to roots and connections of words from pre-historic civilisations. They explore ancient languages like Sanskrit, Aramaic and Latin, for instance, to unearth forgotten gems of wisdom. Well, much closer to home and to present time, it is helpful to note that in the English language, the word "present" has three distinct meanings: "here", "now" and "a gift". Is this only a coincidence, or could it be that, the greatest gifts of life are always available to you here and now! The word "present" also links to "presence", "being" and "being present". Here is another clue. Give yourself to NOW! The future is not your answer - it has no true power. Now - right here - is good enough for you. All you need remember is, nothing is missing within you and nothing is missing here now. One final thought: At the Happiness Project, we celebrate the idea of happiness as a gift in this statement: It is because the world is so full of suffering, that your happiness is a gift. It is because the world is so full of poverty, that your wealth is a gift. It is because the world is so unfriendly, that your smile is a gift. It is because the world is so full of war, that your peace of mind is a gift. It is because the world is in such despair, that your hope and optimism is a gift. It is because the world is so afraid, that your love is a gift.

Extract from Happiness NOW , article by Robert Holden

Misery Can Eat You Alive

By Laurie Hayes

This is a true story about a woman I worked with for several years.

I'm sure we all know at least one person who cannot find a good thing to say about anything or anyone. Your typical "miserable" person who could have $10 million handed to her and would complain that it wasn't $10 million and $1.

This was such a person.

The sky would be blue, the temperature warm and the flowers in full bloom. She would point out one small cloud that loomed in the horizon, that it was two degrees warmer in another town and that the petals on the tulips were wilting prematurely.

She had nothing good to say about anyone we worked with, and I thought we had a great group of people.

I eventually started to avoid her because try as I would to get her to find something good in the world, she would strike down my every effort.

When we would learn of anything new in the workplace, she would immediately react with anger and start venting her opinion to anyone within earshot.

I decided to distance myself from her because I could not raise her energy and she was bringing mine down.

Science has proven that the way we think, feel and react has an impact on our health and physical well-being.

When someone is constantly sick or suffering from one ailment or another, this may often be a reflection of what is going on in his or her thoughts.

Of course, there are always exceptions; however, I have observed that many of those who live in a constant state of negativity, and who react to many situations based on their judgments, suffer more maladies and chronic illnesses than those who don't.

I often contemplated this theory when thinking of my co-worker and I wondered if some day she would suffer a fatal heart attack or terrible illness because she was so filled with anger and negativity.

While working a Tuesday afternoon shift, she booked off duty early and went home because she had a small bruise on her leg that was causing her intense pain.

Later that same evening, she was admitted to the hospital and diagnosed with flesh eating disease.

Wednesday her leg was operated on and it was learned that the disease had spread into her other leg and abdomen.

Thursday she was given her last rights.

When I heard of this series of events, I was shocked and saddened. I listened to others saying, "How could this happen? She's young and so healthy."

I couldn't help but think to myself that her thoughts and negative feelings might have finally manifested themselves through her physically. Somehow I was not so surprised anymore by the terrible news.

She remained in Intensive Care for many months and even though she was not expected to live more than four days from her diagnosis, she remains with us today.

She has very little left of her legs, endured numerous operations on several organs, and spent many months in physical, mental, spiritual and emotional agony. Many months passed before she was able to see her two young children.

I often think of her when I am inclined to react to certain situations in a negative way, or when I am tempted to fall into a negative pattern of complaining or criticizing.

One of the great powers we have is the power to choose, and when I'm faced with the choice of complaining or making the best of a situation, I take the high road.

Do I do it consistently? Not always. After all, I am human and do make mistakes. But, every day I continue to strive to be better than I used to be.

What can you do today to create a more positive outlook on life?

What Company Does Your Business Keep?

By Arun Pal Singh

A man is known by the company he keeps. We have heard that phrase so many times. Our folks have cautioned us often with that in our silly childhood. Do we heed to that advice in our business? Where do you hang out? What is your business surrounded by?

Have you heard about Christian Huygens?

This genius of early 17th century did something awesome. He discovered a law of resonance. A law which was well accepted in physics later and now is being applied to brain science.

Huygens kept few pendulum clocks on the wall of his room with each clock swinging independently. He discovered that after few cycles of independent cycling all the clocks started swinging precisely synchronized rhythm.

And he gave the world a law that seems inherent law of the nature.

He summarized that waves from clocks produced vibrations in the wall which in response produced waves that synchronized the rhythm of all clocks.

Scientists have now extended that law to working of brain waves and results are very -very promising.

Have you ever wondered that successful peoples are surrounded by similar ones? Is it a coincidence that when like minded people are at work the success is more likely!

Let us use this phenomenon to bring success to bring success to your business. It may be a home based business, online business or for that matter any venture.

To succeed in your business - Avoid Naysayers - Surround yourself with who have done or believe this can be done.

This is a much overlooked aspect of business. Your company definitely determines the outcome of your business dream.

Naysayers send you negative vibrations like ?�This can?�#8482;t be done?�#8482;, ?�You can?�#8482;t do this?�#8482;, ?�Oh! It is impossible!?�#8482;

Your mind reacts to them like walls did to the clock and produces similar waves. Before you realize you already have lost faith in your dream. Naysayers will rotten your business. Keep as much away as possible. Realize your own vibrations and vibrate with belief.

Hang out with the other type, the positive ones. Believe in your business and converse with similar minds. You will be amazed with the difference it makes.

Your mind is the workshop of your success. Every business is first borne in the mind before the mind takes action to shape its vision.

Your mind is the powerhouse of ideas which will make your business a success.

Your mind is the source of your strength that enables you to carry the burden in difficult times.

Feed your mind the good food. Avoid stuffing in the junk food.

When you fall it is important to know and believe that many others have fallen and rose again. That is the attitude which will determine success. One must develop that attitude.

If you hang around with naysayers you will drown further because your own mind refuses to provide the necessary strength.

Success might be on the next turn waiting for you.

If you are negative in your approach you are sure to stop before that turn arrives.

So set your clocks again. It is time to vibrate with right frequency.

What is Your Recovery Rate?

By Graham Harris

What is your recovery rate? How long does it take you to recover from actions and behaviours that upset you? Minutes? Hours? Days? Weeks? How long? The longer it takes you to recover the more influence that incident has on your actions, the less able you are to perform to your personal best. In a nutshell the longer it takes you to recover the weaker you are and the poorer your performance.

Just ask yourself:

How many times have I got upset with my spouse or partner for something the children did hours ago?

How many times have I missed an opportunity because I was still focussed on an upset and all I could say was 'NO' to everything?

How many times have I driven my car erratically because I was still thinking of an incident that made me angry?

The point is: a poor recovery rate affects your health. A poor recovery rate affects your well being. A poor recovery rate stops you from living to your potential.

You are well aware that you need to exercise to keep the body fit and, no doubt, accept that a reasonable measure of health is the speed in which your heart and respiratory system recovers after exercise. Likewise the faster you let go of an issue that upsets you, the faster you return to an equilibrium the healthier you will be. The best example of this behaviour is found with professional sportspeople. They know that the faster they can forget an incident or missed opportunity and get on with the game the better their performance. In fact, most measure the time it takes them to overcome and forget an incident in a game and most reckon a recovery rate of 30 seconds is too long!

How long does it take you to recover and overcome and forget and incident at work or at home?

A method that I and many others use to help us reduce the recovery time is the method of the FULL STOP.

Imagine yourself to be an actor in a play on the stage. Your aim is to play your part to the best of your ability. You have been given a script and at the end of each sentence is a full stop. Each time you get to the end of the sentence you start a new one and although the next sentence is related to the last it is not affected by it. Your job is to deliver each sentence to the best of your ability.

Now think about your life. Imagine life is no more than a play, a drama and we each have a role to play in that drama. Your job is to play your part to the best of your ability and the better you play your part the more chance that you will inspire others around you to improve their performance. Each incident you face is a new sentence. Just put a full stop behind it and start again. Accept that every time you meet someone or have a conversation with a person on the telephone or even send an email it is a new incident.

You have both moved on since you last met, so remembering the last occasion only keeps you in the past and stops you moving forward. Stops you seeing new opportunities. The next time you see the person that upset you, or you upset, is a new occasion there is nothing to be gained by continuing from where you left off. The incident has finished. You are both in a different place now. It is a new sentence so start again.

My grandmother used to call it destiny. "Accept what has happened as part of your destiny and live with it", was a favourite phrase of hers. You cannot change what has happened. Sulking or Brooding will not help. Analysing will only give you a headache and keep it fresh in your mind. In the same way that you cannot enter the same river twice, you will never face the exact same incident again so why analyse that one? You can however notice whether you have a habit or thought pattern that clicks in in certain circumstances and stops you performing to your best. You can then look at the habit and decide how you can change it.

The secret to a better life is be like the sportsperson, ask yourself:

Did I recover quicker today than I did yesterday?

Did I recover quicker this time than the last occasion I faced a similar incident?

Did I allow myself to be average today?

Did I equal or improve on my personal best today?

Don't live your life in the past! Learn to live in the present, to overcome the past. Stop the past from influencing your daily life. Don't allow thoughts of the past to reduce your personal best. Stop the past from interfering with your life. Learn to recover quickly.

What we are suggesting is not an easy path. To work on your recovery rate and make changes in your thoughts, behaviour and attitudes requires a great deal of effort. However, the rewards are also great. It is important that you don't force yourself to work on your recovery rate because you think you ought to or must or because you feel it will 'make you a better person'. There's no benefit in that because you will not stick to the task. You will make a great deal of effort at the beginning but when you are not achieving the results you want you will stop or look for another technique. Only when you really feel you want to change.

When you realise life is not working for you at the moment using the methods you are using will you put in the effort to change your behaviour to improve your recovery rate. You can only improve your recovery rate when you can see that there is great benefit for the self.

Once you decide you wish to improve your recovery rate, you will start to check and change your thoughts and behaviour and make effort to perform to your personal best. You can check your progress by measuring the speed in which you are able to apply a full stop. The time it takes you to let go. The time it takes before you are functioning at or near your personal best again.

Check yourself:

What was my recovery rate after the argument with my partner?

What was my recovery rate after I lost a sale?

What was my recovery rate after I received a ticket for speeding?

What was my recovery rate after I heard a friend was ill?

What was my recovery rate after I got frustrated with myself over………?

But remember; Rome wasn't built in a day. Reflect on your recovery rate each day. Every day before you go to bed, look at your progress. Don't lie in bed saying to yourself, 'I did that wrong'. 'I should have done better there'. No. Look at your day and note when you made an effort to place a full stop after an incident. This is a success. You are taking control of your life. Remember this is a step by step process. This is not a make-over. You are undertaking real change here. Your aim: reduce the time spent in recovery.

The way forward?

Live in the present. Not in the precedent.

Heaven's wrong

    The evening of July 2, received a friend's phone in just a few words: "My daughter was hit by a car!" Hearing this, but relief effort half a day to all. Provincial People rushed to the hospital with severe room, that message is: friends, 17-year-old daughter at 17:00 pm the same day by a multi-car collision in the back, and then from the chest, waist rolling mill in the past, collarbone, multiple rib Broken and bleeding body a large area. Severe room doctor at the first time for the rescue. When I and other friends arrived, a notice had been in critical condition, doctors are mildly to her family said: "She is the opportunity to live up 10%, you have to do all the preparation!"

     Even if the use of all reason and emotion to understand this matter, or to feel things too obtrusive. Life was normal, you may be unprepared, a girl's life and death but do you really came to the front. The presence of more than 30 relatives and friends are all in despair, grief with a perturbed state of mind for her to pray in silence.

     The next day, a miracle took place, full of doctors in the treatment of medical equipment and a lot of help, she finally died from the line for the time being come back! After more than 10 days, every minute of life and death struggle in her body, almost every day the notice was dying, she became the parents of most of the text read. Also keep a more or less to save more than 10 days, doctors told her parents that she may have a 50% chance of survival! Such information so that we and her family, that would be quite pleased. Carefully think about her life and still support the continuation of what should be two-fold: First, her indomitable determination, and the other is modern medical technology and means of progress and the health care professional. The former is the spirit of the latter is the material.

     Her first few days of hospitalization, and that the perpetrators - from a rural to urban workers, just a little money in a bank mortgage of the new car (Jialing 8 months), also sent 22,000 yuan. After Niniuruhai. His home in the rural areas, would like to go all the difficulties, together with the traffic police to intervene in this matter, the injured party not directly related to contact with the perpetrators, he shut the phone, you do not. Because the child's life is more important than all that her family can only solve their own medical expenses. Due to her illness need to import high-end equipment and medicine to maintain, so the daily cost of 9,000 yuan. Often in front of the notice arrived in critical condition, hospital after a single reminder of Finance also arrived. Her parents are working-class bias on the kind of a little, a little savings, there are sets of 130 square meters of houses, vehicles worth 100,000 yuan of the car. In order to return the children from Shengsi Xian, the first exhausted their savings, after the car, and then to mortgage the house to the relatives and friends to borrow. Children to come near the 60-day time already spent 60 million yuan. Condition did not improve and increase the cost. Mei Wan sad, went to the borrower. Back to the borrower, is endless grief.

     To save people, it is necessary to spend money. I think that after all that the perpetrators of compensation. It sent more than 20,000 yuan, a friend through the traffic police to urge his brother to the delivery of a word - there is life! In that case, insurance is not helpful? Insurance companies in the aftermath of the incidents have come to do an investigation, although the perpetrators bought all risks, there can be fully paid 120,000 yuan, but because of pending cases, plus two people were injured when a car accident (the other children were injured by The spine, facing paralysis), insurance companies can not claim the first time. Even the claim could be 12 million to the cost of the two branches. Only the responsible manager of the insurance companies look at the situation and has a very human touch from their own private savings, took 20,000 yuan to the parents. Earlier, school students have also bought accident insurance, to happen after the discovery of which happens to the terms of payment does not include a car accident. The insurance companies had the foresight, and so set the terms, or school choice at the time of omission? In any case, the school bought insurance is not used. To rescue children at a later stage, we think of the social forces for help. Children's affairs through a car accident newspapers, television reports, many of the social well-intentioned people have lent a friendly hand, unknown people, students, doctors, nurses and even hospital patients who are spontaneously contributions, it is estimated that 100,000 Yuan. These may be love, she has enough for 10 days of treatment costs. In the past have been aware of the realities of poverty caused by illness, took place in his side really, to understand that a normal average family's ability to fight natural and man-made is very limited.

     The help of the media after the child's mother to look for trade unions, women's federations to find, or through the school district to the Department of Education report of the fight, I hope more students to help the poor girl. Hospitals are also to understand their situation, a special House Committee had a meeting, they agreed not to raise the money situation is still under active treatment. To the hospital, they have done all can do. The child's mother found the city trade union, the city is the President of the union's reception, listening to their problems, and do nothing about that, because of the humanitarian spirit of the trade unions made an exception to the 10,000 yuan. Then look for All-China Women's Federation's proposal is to allow them to look for related philanthropic foundations. An objective that is not these organizations do not want to help them, but these kinds of rules and regulations of the organization, the system did not help a girl injured in the regulations and requirements.

     Because of the extent of the damage too, the children have been struggling between life and death, a clear slight, in WordPad, told her parents, and so on their own good, must earn money to return a lot of families and the community . In fact, her parents never told her the current economic situation, she was a few words from the nurses get. She would like to share the pain of adults, has experienced numerous operations, she has not cried, cried too. The 17-year-old girl may feel that they are strong is the largest of the parents.

     At 1:05 on September 19, as lung and kidney failure, she did not wake up. She has done all she can do. She loved ones can do everything done. Has done a good person can do everything. But she still gone! It is regrettable that in her death, her parents may be eternal but also with the pain to face the reality of life - a few hundred thousand dollars of foreign debt has put them in front.

Through years of deep feeling (original)

     I wrote this article, Comrade hero is a word of the morning, I went to a supermarket to buy things, especially not a statement that Carrefour's doorstep.

     The comrades and I love to buy things, in particular, bought more than one love, love in their sleep when I wake, loved to ask me what to eat, I love to shout the name of children, love pull up all right, I thing there are two , Jalan I love life, love, let me see if he likes to look at things, I love to talk about the things I know nothing about, I would love to repeat asked the same question, I promised to love the incredible demands ... ...

     I look around, the shape of the bed of his own design for me, all the doll he gave me the sound of his own to buy my play, a one of the ornaments are all from different places Over the trafficking, and the piano, a full nine years, he was a week took me to school every day to listen to my practicing, take the trouble.

     Hey, I basically intimidate him into the habit, he estimated that fool Hey, I basically into the habit. However, small to large, even now, my shoes or his brush to me, my package was addressed to him, I wash my cup or on a regular basis, he dealt with me, my good fruit or cut his skin plug on a good cross Plate, I do not like to eat, or eat, he gave me, I want chaos or things he bought for me, I was angry when he was tortured me.

     I know most of the world. A look because I can understand all my thoughts, only you. I have eyes to see more of what you will ask me to buy or do not like hi; 2 of the food I eat, you will be put in front of me all year long, such as a refrigerator for a while before the big fruit.

     I always remember that year, there is the beginning of fresh milk cake, so there is no place to sell, you are a great custom tray so I do not want to eat again. I still clearly remember the look that big tray, just like I used to paint a big palette, a very traditional set of blue and white side of the rectangular disk. I always remember a year ago you took me out to play when I Xianshui, you can sleep on the floor of the bathroom, I can be a very late to watch TV. I always remember you as a child I back upstairs, I get up in the winter when you give me clothes to wear. I always remember the first grade at oversleep once, I am with you on a motorcycle all the way Hurricane, 7 minutes to 15 minutes only to the needs of the school, then somewhere after the traffic police on the investigation and we are always, of course, you have the means To get out. I always remember the moment you have high overtime every night, or I bought rice to the home, I eat every day, but you still insist on buying a lot every day. I remember too many things too much, all my happy memories and almost all of you about. I give you plenty of life is to you for giving me the never-ending tolerance, you are giving me access to the Chongni entirely. Cousin are often said to me, are you good for me.

     Some say her father is a lover of a past life. This is my father. You may be my enemy now, so I am tortured by this life. However, even if it is Valentine's, you must be very qualified. The jokes. I want to say is, do you know how happy little girl so that they can know how big girls, so happy, even though I have been in the eyes of your little girl. You will use the appropriate method I would use to apply to all women. 18-year-old first flowers and flowers for the second time, I can not forget the dismay of people around the eyes, hearts can not forget the sincere gratitude and joy.

     Some time ago, was found home track, I see bright lights at home, I know you waiting for me, so I do not have the running back upstairs. Get rid of this evil person is not a very scientific approach, but then I do not have the slightest hesitation, no fear. You crook of the arm so strong I feel safe, so I have no fear. I have no matter what difficulties or have any need, you can always for me to address, always very efficient and I wish to reach. When and where, how, in what I can to help you, you are my think-tank, is my fortress, my Harbor.

     I love you, Dad. Although no face-to-face export, but I hope you know I love you. You gave me life and gave me the warmth and happiness to me, are you just paranoid I connivance with the stubborn, you stubborn wind and rain shelter for me. I understand that this man in the world do not have more than you love me. I am always at ease in the side of your Qian Zhu Yi Jiao pulling your hand flat walk all the way, but I want you to know that no matter what time to come, no matter what arrived at the location, you are my daughter , Is 19 years before you in his arms a small daughter, many years ago back in the back of your daughter, is now sitting in front of your daughter.

     We have known each other for 19 years. 19 years of day and night, I was always playing a role in about you and never rewarded. I hope this article can be sent to you, to you as a birthday gift 45-year-old, forever wish you health, happiness.

     I love you dad.

     Je t'aime pour toujours.

     Forever I love you.

Premier Zhu was how to deal with financial crisis?

    China on the current economic situation to judge, academics say, mixed. But look at the newspaper, the mainstream view of economic fundamentals have not changed, and will continue to improve. The judge himself, and still more or less optimistic about the economy is not without risk, but said that as long as the Government's handling well, the soldiers will be to block China's economy can be saved.

    Said that in 2008 China's economy is a more difficult year, I agree. But the point to mention is that today we encountered difficulties, in fact, also met in 1998. There are surprisingly similar history. 10 years ago, the Asian crisis, the United States is now at a crisis loan; 10 years ago, 12,000,000 of laid-off workers of state-owned enterprises, private enterprises now there are 12,000,000 unemployed workers; 10 years ago, the Yangtze River, Songhua River floods occur; first year and ice disaster After the earthquake, the economic losses were not a century.

    As an ancient saying goes: The funeral did not forget to do before the army. As previously experienced, then sum up "before" and learn to solve today's problems will certainly help. In the past done right, this can be done; deficiencies, to improve the environment. The question is what to do in the past right, and less where a matter of opinion, to have the same views is not easy. The good news is not far away for 10 years, we are back again, I say point, it made a calculation. First, the right side, the major issues, I think there are three points:

    First, fiscal policy U-turn in a timely manner. As we all know, 98 years prior to the macro-control tone is "tight", not only from the tight fiscal and monetary policy tightening. 97 years after the Asian financial crisis, the Government of stimulating domestic demand, decisive positive change (expansion) fiscal policy. The initiatives that year, the Financial 100,000,000,000 issue special treasury bonds, at the same time by commercial banks 100,000,000,000 loans, all the money for infrastructure investment. Down with a four-year, the annual financial bonds issued more than 1,000 billion to support the development of the western region.

    Second, the modest relaxation of monetary policy. To stimulate investment, both the central bank, cut in the primary reserve, only 98 years on a year down 5 percentage points, from 13% to 8%; the other hand, lower interest rates, Premier Zhu's term of office, nine rate-day drop Times. Not only that, in order to boost consumer spending, the central bank since 1999 and introduced consumer credit, to encourage people to buy a car purchase. It should be said that these policies promote a strong domestic demand, curbing economic recession Moda Yan Gong!

    Third, the stability of the RMB exchange rate. Last of the Asian financial crisis, neighboring countries currency one-sided, one after another devaluation. The Chinese government Yinuoqianjin: the Renminbi yuan. Then Premier Zhu said that the Renminbi yuan, China must first take responsibility for a big country; Second, China's export structure is different from neighboring countries, exports will be affected, but will not cause illness; Third, domestic enterprises will be forced to implement industrial restructuring and upgrading. Now, Premier Zhu well, completely right. Imagine if the exchange rate to stabilize at that time not to let the yuan depreciated by 20% or less now have 50% of the influx of a large number of speculative hot money, I am afraid the situation even more difficult to deal with.
, Said the experience is over, there are lessons here? There are, of course. Wise after the event, also said that three points:

    First of all, the government's failure to make timely tax cuts. Economics, said that stimulate investment should be two main points: First, government procurement orders; Second, tax cuts for businesses. Financial bonds to increase government procurement, will no doubt reduce Yaku, but the Chinese enterprises, and government procurement is limited, beyond the reach of government can not take care of all enterprises. So for most businesses, more tax effective. Can be Unfortunately, despite the country to allow the export tax rebate, but not for the main tax rate reduction.

    Second, the price issue too seriously. Price has a bearing on the livelihood of the people, regardless of the East and West, the Government has attached great importance prices, there is nothing wrong. However, if the price too much weight, will certainly affect the government's major policies and decision-making. In the past, in order to control the CPI at 3%, the Government has always been afraid to open up prices. But the price was a negative growth, deflation, so that was already weak consumer market. In fact, consumers have a psychological, up to buy or not buy. Prices of goods on sale; price macro news is wait and see.

    Third, there is no significant pay rise. In all fairness, when Premier Zhu is intended to pay. I remember the autumn of 2000, Premier Zhu's speech to the Central Party School, I just present that day, Premier Zhu said that three years of civil servants to give up wages, up to three times. May be the result? Ray heavy rain or small, nothing. I thought, it would be the case, the government failed to give their workers wages rose. Official inflation is not up people, will lead to social conflicts. Another layer of reasons, the Government does not tax cuts and wage increases, would increase the cost of business investment.

    Wrote here, the reader should have seen that when the Government should "crisis" although there were mistakes on the whole is greater than a loss. But this is 10 years ago, and now the current crisis, we must look at, which is to be able to get inspiration. Think again recently, the answer to two words: "The expansion of domestic demand." Yes, people should rely on their own, not to mention the U.S. economic outlook remains to be seen how China has 1.3 billion people, as long as sufficient domestic demand and stimulate economic When not be a problem. That the specific point, I think there are three main things to do:
First, looking back to tax cuts. Tax cuts to stimulate private investment, not to mention. Recently, the Ministry of Finance and may be a few friends to meet, when it comes to tax cuts and friends are against it. The rationale is that China is not heavy tax burden, GDP ratio of less than 25%. China's GDP can not tell how much water, and my question is that the GDP last year, an increase of 11% and 30% of financial income. Financial GDP growth rate is twice as heavy tax burden does not explain how?

    Secondly, the relaxation of credit and interest rates. Is not alarmist talk for a rainy day, the Government should guard against possible deflation next year. Stringency in the past two years, the bank is no money to loan, and now I am worried that if business continued losses, banks will not loan does not? To take preventive measures, with its Mai Guancai lending in the future, if not borrow money to buy medicine. To this end as soon as possible, the central bank to relax credit controls, while allowing interest rates to Suixingjiushi.

    Third, raise the minimum wage. Have said many times, the relative growth rate of 10% of the GDP, consumer prices rose 5 percent is not high, the key is to keep pace with price growth in wages. Introduced at the beginning of the new labor law, explicitly raise the minimum wage, is a good thing; may be a reflection of the business community is generally not a good thing, so why? I think there is nothing wrong to pay workers, the government did not issue tax cuts, if the Government can tax, businesses will certainly take this opportunity.

Your vision is really good?

    Reading is a management book. With the majority of Americans to write such books, this book is clearly written in accordance with the outline completed, it appears to be a lack of literary talent, the lack of enthusiasm clever, you methodically list of chapters, in fact, a lot of content authors may not have experience Simply because it is inside the outline of the task must be piled up. But if there was a period I can agree with:

    When you join a company, even if you no longer have a perfect program, you are familiar with the company's culture, it is familiar with how and why this operation before the operation, should not be implemented rashly, or else you are almost doomed to fail; and you will be Found that, you eventually be able to implement the program, and you certainly different from the original vision.
No one taught me this, but almost all holding a trial of strength of the book teach you not say this, because it belongs to the scope of wisdom. We have the experience and dissemination of the law, but few people can spread the wisdom.

    Just the same car with a colleague, she asked me to do a manager's feelings (if I count). I would like to answer for a long time that the manager is dealing with people, get along with others that can really do untold. This link above, it means that you can reach a consensus with his colleagues before, in fact, you do not do anything. And finally you can do with the original idea of the different, but also because it reflects the fact that we have the will, not you.
We may have been tortured to wake up the middle of the night her experience: You will have a good? You still far from achieving the vision? At that time, I think many people can not help with a heavy heart. I do not talk about secular group of people, even as Mao Zedong as the power, he will also say that Nixon: Actually, I will be able to control the outskirts of Beijing. In other words, even Mao Zedong would be ideal for their own distress and can not be achieved. I guess he is also in the side of the counter-night sleep.

    Perhaps this should be said that we must clearly realize that you mind that the ideal is not ideal, it is impossible to achieve, even if it is the realization of a disaster. The real ideal, it must be the will of the people reached a consensus. It may not seem so pure, and even less attractive, but you have to go and achieve. And better reflect the value of you, you is how to stimulate your imagination and let it remain in the general direction of the premise becomes enforceable. Earlier, many new colleagues to join with me that they brought the number of units outstanding from the program, the company is prepared to flex its muscles. And all I replied: you forget those great programs it! Your colleagues would like to know what is around, you can not implement the program; If you do insist, you can only be deeply disappointed, and even that the company will not listen to reason and how such a conservative. I hope you happy, you do not want to fall into a deep frustration among.

    The book is actually talking to me a mean. I do not think the idea vulgar or cowardice. Wang Anshi how failure? He said that the move because only a king, he can not let my colleagues to understand more. "A lack of fear change, lack of ancestral law, less than different-shirt", pose a very good, but not to do so. King Wang than that of most of the power, like the failure of Wang Mang, who he said Zhou resume does not ideal. Chuzhuang Wang succeeded for three years because he did not fly three non-ming, why in his three years, he would like everyone to observe what he has to win a consensus.

    We have no business inside a three-year period may not fly non-ming, but always within three months of tolerance. I think three months is too short, at least six months. Of course, you will be faced with more and more a result of heavy pressure and anxiety may be ... ... This is the professional market difficult.

    Pull the last sentence of gossip. We all read too many ancient works of intellectuals sees their talents wasted their grievances, they feel aggrieved by a big and unfair treatment. In fact, I think, is precisely what they did with the ideal partner to reach a consensus, naturally can not be achieved. Duman their lofty, think on their own and others are short-sighted fools, and less than Shuzai work. Zhang was probably his poems article is not how smart, but he knows how to win consensus on the reason, it can cause great achievements made so that the Ming Chung Hsing and the like.